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The Kitchen God’s Wife by Amy Tan — truth-telling from China

Cover of The Kitchen God's Wife a tale about the experience of a Chinese immigrant to San Fransisco

In The Kitchen God’s Wife Amy Tan returns to a theme that was enormously successful in her debut novel The Joy Luck Club — the gap in understanding between mothers and their daughters.

Once again she plunders her own family’s history to bring a tale about the experiences of women in nineteenth century China and their struggle to find happiness in a culture that denied them choice and autonomy.

The Kitchen God’s Wife is framed as a tale told by Winnie Louie, a Chinese immigrant living in San Francisco, to her daughter Pearl.

Both women have secrets.

Pearl has kept quiet for seven years the fact she has multiple sclerosis, knowing her mother would react the way she always did when something bad happened; asking endless questions about why it had happened and how it could have been prevented.

Much easier to say nothing than to hear yet another theory from her mother that she should have been smart enough to see this disaster in time to stop it. She doesn’t know that Winnie has long kept her own secrets — about her past and the confusing circumstances of Pearl’s birth.

Time for Truth Telling

It takes an intervention by Helen Kwong, Winnie’s so-called sister-in-law, to get the two women to open up. Helen believes she is dying from a brain tumour and cannot fly off to heaven with Winnie’s lies and Pearl’s secret on her conscience. She threatens Pearl and Winnie that unless they tell the truth she will do it for them. And thus, after persuading Pearl to visit one afternoon, Winnie begins to peel back the veil on her past.

For the next three hundred pages or so we hear Winnie tell of her life when she was known as Weiwei and lived on a small island near Shanghai in the 1920s.

She was sent there at the age of six to live with her uncle and his two wives when her beautiful, free-spirited mother disappeared in mysterious circumstances.

Winnie is always conscious of this stain on her character yet when the time comes for her to marry, her father does give her a generous dowry. Her chosen husband seems quite a catch though just before the wedding Winnie expresses her doubts.

If you asked me how I felt when they told me I would marry Wen Fu, I can say only this: It was like being told I had won a big prize. And it was also like being told my head was going to be chopped off. Something between those two feelings.

Unfortunately Wen Fu turns out to be not the dashing young pilot everyone thought he was, but an incompetent, boastful, manipulative spendthrift who enjoys beating, raping and humiliating his wife. Throughout her marriage Winnie endures physical hardship and mental abuse, sustained only by the friendship of Helen.

More than once she tries to leave Wen Fu but fate intervenes each time leading Winnie to compare herself to the wife of Zao Jun who still became the Kitchen God despite his ill treatment of his wife.

A chance of happiness beckons when she meets Jimmy Louie at an American military dance and falls in love. He provides the means to escape her abusive marriage by joining him in America but this could be at the risk of losing her son.

Isn’t that how it is when you must decide with your heart? You are not just choosing one thing over another. You are choosing what you want. And you are also choosing what somebody else does not want, and all the consequences that follow. You can tell yourself, That’s not my problem, but those words do not wash the trouble away. Maybe it is no longer a problem in your life. But it is always a problem in your heart.

Stretching Credulity?

The Kitchen God‘s Wife feels awkward at times because it requires us to believe that everything Pearl hears about her mother’s life that afternoon sat at the kitchen table she is hearing for the first time. There are many details which I could accept would have been revelations but can we really believe that a daughter doesn’t even know how her parents met or how her mother ended up living in America in 1949?

Tan just about gets away with it because Winnie/Weiwei is such a good storyteller.

She doesn’t flinch from the details whether she is listing the various dishes she cooks to impress her husband’s colleagues, the ordeals of overland journeys to remote towns where her husband is sent by the Air Force, the beatings she suffers or the terror of being out on the street during a Japanese bomb attack. Through her we also learn of the rituals of life for a Chinese woman in the period between 1920 and 1949 and the near impossibility of divorce.

The character of Winnie and her relationship with Pearl and Helen were the strongest, most enjoyable elements of the book.

Tan makes her a cranky woman initially, a rather domineering figure who as Pearl says begins every conversation “as if we were already in the middle of an argument.” Many of her disagreements are with Helen, her partner in a florists business, about food: whether this dish is too salty or too sour, whether the fish at the market is fresh and who is the best cook.

Ultimately we learn that their rivalry is at face value for this is a book that in essence celebrates the resilience of a friendship shaped by horror and suffering.

This is an updated version of a review first published at in 2017. The formatting has been changed to improve readability and a new image has been included. It is re-published in support of #throwbackthursday hosted by Davida @ The Chocolate Lady’s Book Review Blog.


What do you need to know about me? 1. I'm from Wales which is one of the countries in the UK and must never be confused with England. 2. My life has always revolved around the written and spoken word. I worked as a journalist for nine years then in international corporate communications 3. My tastes in books are eclectic. I love realism and hate science fiction and science fantasy. 4. I am trying to broaden my reading horizons geographically by reading more books in translation

22 thoughts on “The Kitchen God’s Wife by Amy Tan — truth-telling from China

  • What a good review. Glad my #ThrowbackThursday inspired you to revamp it!

    • Thanks Davida. Sometimes I look back at an old post and wonder how I could have written such a bad review – ThrowbackThursday gives me a good reason to remedy that

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  • I read this and The Joy Luck Club when they came out. I enjoyed them both, but I seem to recollect that this felt a little repetitive of The Joy Luck Club and not quite as excitingly written.

  • I read this book a couple of years ago and really enjoyed it. I’ve heard that many of her books feel the same or have the same structure or plot, but reading just the one was a good experience for me. I also learned quite a bit from it!

    • It was interesting to learn more about Chinese culture – that proved one of the best aspects of the book in fact.

  • Oops, I meant I tried to reread The Joy Luck Club, not the Kitchen God!

  • It has been years since I read this, and I didn’t quite like it as much as The Joy Luck Club, which was the first one. I tried to reread it recently, and got a little tired after a couple of the stories. Perhaps these were books for the ’90s? Sometimes just for a certain time…

    • They maybe came out just at the right time because China was opening up more to the western world so there was a curiosity.

  • I’ve found her books very repetitive. I read one, and then the next one, and then another, and I can’t distinguish one from the other.

    • I was wondering g about that when I read the synopsis of The Joy Luck Club.

  • Great review, I can’t think how many years ago it was I read this, but I still have my copy.

  • I’ve only read this one short story by Amy Tan. Its plot sounds exactly like the plot of all of her books. The mother was obviously be and wrong, the daughter misunderstanding. While I think Tan’s voice is important, I occasionally wonder if her stories are more damning than anything else.

    • I think I found some commentary that her portrayals in the later books veered towards stereotypes

  • I think I’ve only read The Joy Luck Club by Tan… but maybe not because this book sounds familiar! I went through a phase of reading a lot about China and the books are a bit of a blur now. Do you ever start reading a book, only to get a quarter of the way through and think ‘I’ve read this before!’?!

  • The only Tan I’ve read was The Valley of Amazement, which was patchy for me – I loved the descriptions of the way of life of the courtesans, but felt she went on way too long, plus I didn’t really develop much affection for the main character. I’ve always meant to try another however – this one sounds quite tempting…

    • Kitchen God’s Wife would also have benefited from being a bit shorter

  • I didn’t enjoy The Joy Luck Club at all. I found it irritating for some reason. I think from what you’ve said here I would probably have the same problem with this one. Tan asks too much of our powers of belief.

    • I’ve not read the Joy Luck Club – for some reason it never appealed – but it does sound remarkably similar to this novel. If it hadn’t been for the character of the mother I would have given up on it

  • I always thought I had read this one but there is no record in my lists of having done so. I think I will read it soon before I read her memoir. I love how you say Amy Tan gets away with things. She does!

  • My only read by Amy Tan was The Joy Luck Club, and I still think about it. I love stories about mothers and daughters…those relationships are a mixed bag of wonderful and awful, IMO. But they make good reading.

    Great quotes, too. Thanks for sharing and tempting me to read this book.

    • I’m convinced that mothers are the same the world over 🙂


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